Looking for the best Fleshlight in 2023? Whether you're new to the world of sex toys and looking for something to get started with, or you're in search for new sensations, our guide to the best Fleshlights has something that'll fit the bill.
Assuming you haven't landed here accidentally, you'll probably already know what we're talking about, but for any avoidance of doubt, a Fleshlight refers to a penetrative sex toy designed to be used on a penis. It's a brand name, but, like Hoover and Sellotape, it's one that's come to represent all toys of that ilk. And it's widely considered to be one of the best sex toys for men.
Sometimes they're anatomical looking, sometimes they're not. Sometimes they resemble a flashlight (in which case, you'd better hope the wrong person doesn't happen upon it in a power cut), sometimes they're something absolutely unique. There's no right or wrong in the Fleshlight world – just what feels best.
If you're new to Fleshlights, there are plenty of ways to use a Fleshlight, whether it's to improve staying power, pleasure a partner, or just get yourself off; it's really up to you. Just make sure you heed our guidelines on how to clean a Fleshlight (yes, every time). With the majority of the big names in sex toys making their own unique versions, toys are getting better all the time, and there's no better time to get involved. But let's consider a few of your top Fleshlight options first.
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Best Fleshlights 2023 ranking
The best Fleshlight overall
+ Genderless design
+ SuperSkin feels great
+ Creates decent suction
- Potentially rough texture
- Silly end cap design
The top pick for the best Fleshlight is a top-seller for good reason. The company has taken its original model and refined every aspect to bring you the Flight Pilot. You've still got the super-discrete outer, the feel of the inner is softer than before, with a uniquely textured canal that promises oodles of pleasure. Clear material and a non-anatomical opening means this is more the stuff of your fantasies than a replication of anything real – it's suitable for anyone with a penis, whatever their tastes. It's waterproof, and there's plenty of room for experimentation, with a twist base to alter the level of suction as you play.
What do the reviews say? Our tester was impressed with the natural-feeling Superskin and satisfying suction, but noted that more sensitive users might find some of the internal textures a bit much.
Read our full Fleshlight Flight Pilot review
The best Fleshlight for watching all the action
+ Clear design is good for couples
+ Superskin feels great
+ Decent suction
- Lid is tricky to remove
- Narrows at an odd spot
With the Ice Lady, Fleshlight is working on the premise that see-through is sexy, and it's not wrong. This toy gives you a clear view of all the action (with some rather complementary refraction), which makes it perhaps the best Fleshlight for use with a partner. There's the same great-feeling crystal SuperSkin that's used in the Flight Pilot, and the inner canal introduces a whole load of different textures for you to explore – although the narrow central section might be unhelpfully placed for some people.
Our tester found this toy didn't gel especially well with their particular measurements, but commented that the clear design does amp up the excitement levels, and found the inner material felt skin-like and supple. Also be aware that it's not exactly the most discreet toy, being pretty large and very difficult to mistake for anything other than exactly what it is.
Read our full Fleshlight Ice Lady review
The best Fleshlight for blow job fun
+ Great for twisting sensations
+ Soft, varied inner canal
+ Room to combine with oral play
- No suction
- Can be tricky to create pressure
Though it looks something like a futuristic knuckleduster, this five-knuckle shuffler is far kinder to the flesh. The idea is probably rather obvious: you slide your fingers into the holes in its grip, apply a generous amount of lube, and go to town. The great benefit over more traditional Fleshlight products is that there's no outer case, so while there's no suction on offer it's squeezable for a change in pressure as you go - and those finger holes, sitting comfortably at your knuckles, invite easy twisting and turning motions too.
It's relatively short and open-ended, so when used by (or on) a partner there's room for a little oral play at the exit, and the textures inside, a mix of ribs and nodules with typical Fleshlight intensity, give plenty of options for variety as you go. There's a custom case to keep it safe if you're travelling, and also in which to store it while it dries – as ever, a little time under the tap is all it really takes, and the open end means nothing nasty should get trapped.
The best automated Fleshlight
+ Hands-on automation
+ Pick your choice of Quickshot
+ Battery or wall-powered
- Might look a bit daunting for new users
OK, not a Fleshlight in its own right, but if you're into Fleshlights, the Launch really needs to be on your radar. It's a battery-powered motorised add-on which takes Fleshlight's Quickshot toys (see below) to the next dimension, automating the stroking action up to 250 times per minute while keeping the stroke length, position and speed entirely in your control via a pair of thumbsticks on the handles.
Sounds a little terrifying, but it's not as if you're strapping yourself into something you can't stop immediately if you're uncomfortable. There's even a phone holder, so you can enjoy your favourite illicit materials while keeping your hands on the controls at all times.
The best Fleshlight for the sensitive
+ Comfortable entry
+ Not too over-stimulating
+ Classic discrete packaging
- Length
Some more sensitive users find the textured canals of typical Fleshlights a little too much. But not everything has to be lumpy, bumpy, and covered in all kinds of geometric shapes – the Pink Lady and Pink Butt, the Fleshlights that started it all, keep it smooth inside. They're not exactly baggy; most men will find a reasonably tight canal (and, on the Pink Butt, a suitably small opening) gives all parts of the penis plenty to experience on the way in, but the soft material means you won't be fighting to enter, and there's a pressure relief valve on the rear with which to find a balance of suction and slide.
The only real downside, if you can call it that, is the length – we'd wager most would be unable to reach all the way to the end, and if you're likely to hide it away you may wish to opt for one of Fleshlight's more compact models.
The best Fleshlight for travel use
+ Works well with a partner
+ Multiple modes
+ Open-ended & reversible
- Scratchy caps
Deviating from the standard form factor, Fleshlight's Quickshot is an open-ended device that's much smaller and perfect for travel. You can leave one cap on and use it in the same way as a traditional Fleshlight, with varying suction depending on how tight the end cap is applied, but remove both and it becomes much more flexible.
Our tester found that when you flip it over, it varies the way it feels. By removing the outer ring, you get a looser experience, or you can take advantage of the shorter straight-through inner canal when playing with a partner. Or, if you're really after something different, pop one into the Quickshot Launch and enjoy a little automated fun.
Read our full Fleshlight Quickshot Vantage review
The best Fleshlight for exploring new sexual fantasies
+ Realistic outers
+ Varied inner experiences
+ Switchable inners
- Design might be a little strange for some
If you're looking for something truly anatomical, Fleshlight has the answer. The company has licensed and moulded realistic replicas of many porn stars, both men and women, and applied them to their traditional structure. Each of these, in addition to that true-to-life outer, carries a one of a vast array of unique inner canals for a different experience.
Fleshlight also sells just the inners on their own, if you're interested in creating a collection. If a Fleshlight is your route to indulging a fantasy, there's a host of names on offer, so whether it's Riley Reid and Alexis Texas or Kevin Warhol and Brent Corrigan, you'll find something – or someone – to suit.
The best Fleshlight for a blow job in a box
+ Three entry points
+ Great for going deep
+ Voyeur (and partner) friendly
- Not massively realistic for those who like that
It may not have realistically-moulded lips on the entrance, but it really doesn't need them: the Fleshlight Turbo Thrust is touted as the ultimate in blow job simulations. With that in mind, Fleshlight has designed its orifice with several distinct sections, for three potential points of insertion: soft lips, a caressing tongue, a throat ridge, and then a varied ribbed canal to follow.
The Fleshlight Turbo Thrust is a toy that will keep its recipient guessing, though with a clear outer showing off the translucent blue ice inner, you won't have to wonder which part you've reached.
Best Fleshlight alternatives
Fleshlight is a brand name, but has come to represent male masturbation aids in general. Here's our picks for the best fleshlights (with a small 'f') from different brands but with the same kind of idea.
The best Fleshlight alternative from Lovehoney
+ Stimulating vibration patterns
+ Great feeling inner
+ Subtle, abstract design
- Bit of a nightmare to clean
- Perhaps not the most durable
Lovehoney makes a wide range of excellent sex toys, including the pioneering Blowmotion range, aimed at men. Our pick of the bunch is the Real Feel Male Masturbator, which might look like a Fleshlight on the outside, but has a number of tricks in that subtle, plain casing. The internal canal has a range of interesting textures, but the real star of the show is the vibrations, which are adjustable in intensity, and pack a serious punch when dialed up. The one downside our tester found was that it's not the easiest to clean, and the inner doesn't look like it'll withstand too much battering. But otherwise, this toy really hits the spot.
Read our full Blowmotion Real Feel Male Masturbator review
The best stroker toy
+ Premium feel
+ Adjustable fit
+ Feels great to use
- Makes weird noises
- Perhaps too wide for some
The Arcwave Voy is open-ended, so a stroker rather than a true Fleshlight, which is why it sits slightly further down this list. Tidy, discreet and high quality, this toy has a simple but effective design. Twist a ring on its top edge to adjust the tightness and internal feel between eight settings. It's not too tight but each end has a slightly different diameter, which means you can rotate it to add pressure where you want it. We expect it to last a long time, and it's easy to keep clean, too.
Read our full Arcwave Voy review
The best Tenga toy for strong sensations
+ Stealth appearance
+ Antibacterial
+ Great for heavier stimulation
- Highly unusual
The Tenga 3D Module offers up a combination of protruding ridges and inverted caverns, the latter of which act as interesting suction points, and Tenga's antibacterial elastomer material is soft enough that you won't feel too tender afterwards. Do use generous amounts of lube, though (see the best lube for options). When inverted and placed in the stand to dry, it's almost artistic (not something you can necessarily say for every masturbation aid out there) and those not in the know will have no idea of its true purpose. That could be useful, depending on your situation, but do come up with a plausible explanation just in case.
The best masturbation aid for vibrations on a budget
+ Very affordable
+ Easy to clean
+ Perfect for foreplay
- Not the most technologically advanced
If you don't like suction, an open-ended device is probably a good idea. Perhaps it's odd that Lovehoney's budget-priced blowjob stroker doesn't form a seal, but it's shorter than some, so its open end both offers extra space and opportunities to focus on the base of the penis without overstimulating the glans, and it opens up some interesting blow job possibilities, too. The vibrator isn't particularly technologically advanced, but it's easy enough to switch on and off when the mood takes you, and you can remove it when you're cleaning. The texture within should be far more pleasant than the slightly fearsome picture above might suggest, too. Make sure you're using plenty of water-based lube and you'll get on just fine.
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Geometric fun that's almost sculptural
+ Plenty of options
+ Should last a while
+ Looks pretty neat when inverted
- Pricey
Oh, Tenga. You never fail to arouse and amuse. Here, the company takes the unusual shapes it seems so enamoured with and applies them to the outside of a spherical elastomer toy, made extra stretchy so you can really get up close and personal with it. The Geo comes in three designs: the wavy Aqua, with its undulating lines and ridges; the more complex Coral, which offers a vast number of tight corners to get stuck into; and the downright geometric Glacier, which should offer something else entirely. The Geo range is a lot more expensive than Tenga's popular selection of Eggs, but it also has the benefit of longevity.
A very competent toy, and a great training aid too
+ All the functions you might want
+ Adjustable suction
+ App training could be fun – or useful
- Not exactly discreet
The Myhixel I isn't sold specifically on its benefits as a male masturbation toy, though all the relevant boxes are ticked in that department. It's clearly the right shape, there's a soft textured inner, an incorporated vibrator, variable suction with an open-ended cap, and even self heating. If you're looking for a do-it-all toy, this is the one. But it's not just a toy, it's a tool aimed at improving your sexual well being. The Myhixel I can pair to your phone, at which point you can participate in one of two programs. Play MED is for those suffering from premature ejaculation and, as well as including a consultation with a sex therapist, it gamifies the process of training your physical and psychological arousal triggers with eight stages of stimulation to give you a little extra staying power. Play TR, the cheaper option, is the next stage up, with longer levels for those who already have a handle on ejaculatory control.
App-controlled male masturbator uses AI to enhance your play
+ Range of functions
+ Great for endurance
+ Tracks performance
- Big
LELO has some significant prowess in the female sex toy department (the Soraya 2 is our top pick for the best vibrator) so it should come as no surprise that this big step into the male market is something special. Equal parts masturbation aid (with a washable spiral-textured silicone sleeve viewable through a window), endurance trainer, performance tracker and pleasure giver, the LELO F1s promises some highly unique sensations. It includes both vibration functions and the company’s SenSonic tech, which fires ultrasonic waves all around the penis. All of this is monitored by a series of ten sensors and can be controlled automatically by an AI ‘cruise control’ engine.
Six experiences in one handy box
+ Lots to choose from
+ Super-compact
+ Something totally different
- Disposable
Tenga's tendency is towards the more weird and experimental side of masturbation, and this six-pack of the company's Eggs offers a half dozen different experiences. Crack one open and you'll find a small, squishy and very stretchy toy inside, with the Hard Boiled pack using Tenga's stronger elastomer for a slightly more intense experience. Each egg has a different texture – Thunder is covered in lightning bolts, Surfer has a ridged wave pattern, and so on. A real variety pack, then, though some don't care for the feeling of stretching a toy over the penis, and some textures are likely to be more effective than others. The real downside is that these are designed for one-time use. You may get slightly longer life out of them if you're careful with cleaning, but Tenga Eggs definitely don't have the staying power of more fully-featured toys.
What kinds of Fleshlights are there?
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'Fleshlight' has become something of a genericised trademark, given that it was the brand that really kickstarted the craze for male sex toys. But while there are a whole bunch of non-Fleshlight toys on the market, the company itself has plenty to offer in terms of variety.
The traditional Fleshlight design consists of a soft inner made of Fleshlight's SuperSkin material, inside a harder plastic case with an opening at the bottom for suction adjustment. That's the core of the majority of the company's products, but they very massively in terms of the way that design is applied: there are different openings, different canal textures, and different materials to try out.
The range has plenty of anatomical reproductions, with vagina, mouth and anus openings designed for straight, gay or curious enjoyment. Fleshlight has also reproduced the parts of various porn stars of both orientations, which might help you get a bit closer to your favourite adult material.
The point of a Fleshlight is to explore, and it naturally follows that there's a whole line of Fleshlight options which ignore realism in favour of pleasure. This includes options like the Flight Pilot, which has an opening designed specifically to just feel awesome, and the compact convenience of items like the Fleshskins Grip and the Quickshot.
And yes, Fleshlight is not the only fruit. There are male masturbators from other companies that take things even further: Tenga's range trends towards the geometric, so it's a great choice if you're looking for something more interesting, and others like MyHixel and Lelo are pushing the envelope in guy toys more in the electronic direction.
How we test Fleshlights
Wherever possible, we request a sample of the latest Fleshlight or Fleshlight-style toy to test out properly by our experts. Reviewing is done by experienced sex toy reviewers who have used a range of Fleshlights and other male toys over the years and know what makes a great toy. Not only do we see how they perform on their own or with a partner, but we also see what the cleaning process is like and if it travels well... we cover all the basics!
Where we aren't able to get hold of a Fleshlight to test personally, but feel it's significant enough to include in a guide, we'll research around the product and read what other customers say about it, to put together a balanced blurb for you to make your decision based on. See how we test at T3 for more.
